A common obstacle that gets in the way of expressing one’s story is not knowing where to start or how to go about piecing it together. Instead of working with the cliche to “start somewhere” nothing is expressed. Consequently, one’s story remains inside, silent, fragmented and unprocessed.
To “start somewhere” is to take a huge step forward, inward and to begin recovering what one hasn’t satisfactorily acknowledged having to say.
Another challenge is becoming lost in the middle. All that could be included seems too much and as though it could fill volumes. It’s hard to be objective enough to clearly see what’s necessary to keep and what’s better omitted.
A second, informed set of eyes can help identify “the forest from the trees” and illuminate possible ways forward.
Essentially, story writing is an ongoing decision making process regardless of whether the storyteller is conscious of what’s been chosen. Without the guiding presence of another who understands the mechanics of how story works, and the creative process, it can be hard to recognise the most effective option or when it’s necessary to go back and make better ones.
Without assistance it may also get difficult to understand how to manage physical, emotional and psychological self-care. Especially when the story being told is metaphorically expressing and attempting to resolve a wound.
Not having an ending in mind may also create problems along the story writing journey. The absence of a potential destination to aspire towards potentially leaves the narrative vulnerable to growing out of control. If there’s a starting point and an end point in mind, the middle can be accordingly plotted and therefore contained.
Even if the ending changes while writing towards it, to have one in mind also gives a sense of purpose and reason for persisting through the challenge of writing a current scene, event or encounter. It helps the storyteller to understand the best way to stage the driving conflict and why.
Life doesn’t unfold according to a tight logic, progression, meaning or significance but story insists upon taking what’s useful from the mess we experience in life and making something coherent out of it.
The practice of writing a story is the process of engaging constructively and meaningfully with emotional experience. Consequently, writing your story can surface long avoided emotions and linked memories which may be too difficult to bare alone.
When aspects of who we are, experiences that we’ve had and feelings that cause varying degrees of discomfort indirectly inform the story it’s common to want to abandon the project or feel stuck.
What blocks the ability to write is often made of the same stuff obstructing the storyteller in daily life via depression, compulsive behavior, toxic relationship patterns, addiction, and self-sabotage.
To work though underlying issues and wounds metaphorically in story is to do the psychological and emotional ground work required for being able to move forward in daily life. For multiple in depth articles on what is meant by this please refer to the posts in Writing Through Trauma blog https://writingthroughtrauma.org/blog/
By working with Dr Angelina Mirabito you will:
- Receive guidance in self-expression and asserting what you want to say in your own words and voice.
- Develop insight into how and why you arrived at the place that you’re at.
- Recognise what’s holding you back; what you want to change and how.
- Use narrative structure, understand how to outline a cause and effect logic that is consistent with point of view and character arc.
- Observe through a cast of characters and series of events that reactive behaviour, unhelpful ways of relating to others, and toxic relationships have patterns and ingrained dynamics that need to be understood before they can be constructively managed.
- Have the opportunity to construct meaning, significance and most importantly, satisfying resolution to emotional experience and wounds that for whatever reason can’t be achieved in life. For example: sometimes the people or circumstances that have had a profound affect on us and our lives aren’t available for us to return to, confront or provide an exchange that gives us a sense of peace. In a fictional story we can grant ourselves this much needed experience in order to move forward.
- Enhance creative problem solving skills, confidence in exploring ideas and learn how to effectively occupy the empowered position as the author. For example: through story writing you experience calling the shots, being assertive, taking action and standing by what you have to say. You honour that which holds meaning to you and resonates with your truth, experience, values and perspective. Practicing authentic self-expression through story is a pathway to implementing and asserting yourself wholly into daily life.
- Learn to use story writing to work through trauma, grief, shame, silence, confusion, indecision, addiction, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.
- Learn about structure, character, events, settings and metaphor to make sense out of chaos, emotions and unconscious patterns.
- Walk away with a piece of storytelling that expresses something of who you are, where you’re currently at, a vision for where you’re going and sense of how to get there.
Take action today and start writing now. We tend to regret the things that we don’t do much more than the things that we do, so there is actually less to lose and much more to gain by giving it a go. If you are stuck or need any assistance or direction at any step of your writing journey, contact Your Story Doctor and book in an appointment.
Dr Angelina Mirabito offers a unique writing service that is tailored specifically to your needs. There’s a limit to the number of clients she available to see individually. The sooner you make contact the easier it will be to accommodate your preferred commencement date, session time and frequency.